TODAY

 

Today, I was going to make a post whose subject matter would have bothered on, “choose to be happy no matter what life throws at you (in extension, choose to succeed against all odds).” 

But then, it occurred to me, I could only think this way because I have the privilege of choosing. What about the people who sincerely can’t choose? Like the young lady I saw one day on my way to Ebenebe, whose whole mouth is painfully blocked by a giant,malignant, tumour? Or the people permanently made unaware of anything else asides the pain that comes from the ailment of body/life which they suffer?

Pain is in grades. And though neither of the grades invalidates the trauma of one another, it’s still true that some people suffer more than others. 

Thus, for this reason, I would rather put it this way, if you can afford to be a chooser, especially career and “relationship” wise, but you are currently depressed because you seem to be making no headway, here are important things to note:

Life no really send you. Yes.

If you die today from depression, the earth will not stop rotating. Even if there were things you alone could handle,trust me, life would move on either ways, with or without those things. 

From what I have observed of life, misfortune comes to the good and bad in no particular order. Any day, anytime, it maybe you, it maybe I, it maybe someone by your side. And of course, I know some people like to think that as long as they believe in God, no evil would befall them. But my dear, those experiencing misfortunes, you are not more God’s child than them.

It maybe hard to escape life unscarred, true, yet there are people who may never experience any serious pain in life. There are those who may meet real pain. And there are others who pain would be their food morning, afternoon and night. We only pray, may temptations bigger than us not come our way. But God might answer, and he might not. 

Hence, instead of whiling away in self pity, why not try a more practical way of living life? If plan A does not work, why not try B, and D, and Z, rather than letting one thing deter everything else?

If Adaobi doesn’t like you, have you tried Uchenna, Nnanna, Margret, Priscilla . . .? Or you so much don’t think anything of yourself at all to let the opinion of one or few persons make you feel worthless? Well, even if you don’t, maybe you should start doing because I tell you for free, “Nobody special pass.” 

As for people who might want to say, “I am strongly believing God would answer me,” it’s totally fine to have faith. However, God might not answer you if he has already deposited in you all you need to succeed. In other words, I am saying, I feel life is a discovery. A place where searching  and finding yourself is meant to be the task. 

But again, this is only my feeling, my thoughts. You can choose what you want.